The ghosts of three have visited and no difference was made.

One expects fanfare or at least trumpets but none have occurred Perhaps with failing vision the apparitions did not carry the desired affect but my feelings lie unchanged. I have re-visited the past been in the present and have seen events that might be yet do not have to be.

SO to say I no longer seek those with desires of submission would be a death knoll for a Dominant it simple means I am tired of the work to satisfy them with their needs. I wish to sit back now and see the light of the sunset and not worry of the mornings’ light.

This blog was suppose to stimulate conversation amongst some of my friends and to give points of view to others that dropped in to read/ I seem to be a singular voice not that interesting for me. So the Stable will be quiet for awhile at least until the spirits stir me back to live. Mentoring I will always do for those that show promise but I do not think my views need to be spewed out to an empty room.

So a happy New Year to you all and like 2009 I will quietly withdraw leaving this blog like the dinosaurs perhaps to be found or forgotten.

A Proper Punishment

Reverence and Salutations to all,

well lately one of my subs has been experiencing trouble drawing the line between the two aspects of our relationships, these were always clear it seems to me, but she pushed it to a level that demanded a quick and decisive answer.

She has been in contact with Master CLoud since before i met her, her own journey into the Lifestyle having started before mine, and since had become one of my Own. ..but somehow the realities of the world had forced my to curbs some of our experiences to a minimum and thus she forgot that Patience and Respect are cornerstones of what I wished her to learn.

An e-mail sent to Master CLoud and I proved I had to act swiftly. A stern e-mail got her to apologize properly but that wasn't the end of it...I gave her strict instructions and setup a Punishment session... she was to wait naked with candle lights at a given date and had no tv or music for a week while she thought about her actions and what was coming.

As i came into the room she was respectfully sitting with her head down and answered my questions properly... it was important to me that she understood the reason why.

I tied her down to the table, arms and legs spread open and used several flogger, horse whip and even my hand on her entire body, even broke a nice hairbrush i had due to the force applied.

I let her weep and cry, stopping to let the pain spread and do it's deed, then started again.... and again... and again....

After the right amount of time had passed, i untied her and led her to the couch while i pakced the instruments i had used. Aftercare came and took several hours.

But the lesson was learned. She is the sub, I am the Dom. Respect and Patience, always.

Punishment lovely idea

Punishment in my mind should not fit the crime but instead exceed it. There should be no question in a persons mind that it is more painful to error then to tow the line.

I either pick out the part of the body they least wanted touched by punishment and concentrate my efforts there. Or I use extreme force and toy on their favourite area such as their ass, using what we have all seen a Singapore cane. IT is about four and a half feet long the good one are out of rattan I use one of bamboo. It is delivered to the buttocks and thighs leaving the slave lovely marks that stay for days Delivered with both hands one must be sure of the landing of the instrument but has turned some pain sluts into tears in as little as three strokes minion found this to be of great help to her as once introduced to it never had to be taken to task for a recurring similar infraction as every time she did sit the next week she would have cause to remember what she had done wrong sort of a gift that keeps on giving. The ass must be secured for this unless they are very good at standing still no wiggle can occur so the legs just below the ass are strapped in as well as the waist then the strokes lets five are delivered over the next while making sure to take at least thirty seconds between stroke to help the punisher to re-gain their strength and composure for the next stroke.

I used this method for the weekly punishment session that I have with slaves who are usually happy when the week is over and I tell them it was a good week no punishment is needed. Not speaking of the minor offences that are taken care of immediately during the course of the week.

Ah the joy of training a slave what fun!

Separation, Protocols, and Responsibilities

Separation of church and state. Legal separation. Separation from loved ones. Separation of love and sex. Separation of play-time and real life.

Separation of what I know I should do and what I want to do.

Separation of "sub"-status and "girlfriend" status.

Separation of "friend" status and "pet" status.

I have crossed a good many lines of separation in my time. Some of them have been clear lines, some less so. Since I am fairly new to BDSM, I tend to be impatient with protocols, especially when I don't feel a particular protocol applies to me. Being a very opinionated woman, if I think a protocol doesn't apply to me in a particular case, I tend to just ignore it altogether.

Whoops - I did it again.

Ignored not only protocols, but good sense as well.

I often wonder if the average person wages the daily battles I do with myself. I know several people who seem to run smoothly through the course of their days. The alarm goes off, they get up. They get ready for work, automatically, seamlessly. They shower, they dress, they get going.

Not so with me. The alarm goes off, my mind starts screaming "NO! I'm NOT going in today!"

And it's pretty much downhill from there.

In BDSM, I have the same difficulty with obedience, and with patience. Waiting till my Lord is ready in particular. Maintaining protocols with Doms, even when not in a M/s relationship with my own Lord, much less the other Dom.

See, my Lord and I only play occasionally - so therefore my mind screams at me that all these "protocols" do not apply to me. That unless I am specifically involved in playtime, for which my Lord has specific words to begin and end a session, I am free to do and speak as I please. Even when speaking to my Lord, even when addressing other Doms.

Well now, there seems to be a difference of opinion on that subject!

(As Homer Simpson says: "D'oh!")

It seems that Doms like to be accorded respect all the time, not just within playtime, not just within BDSM situations.

Well then, I'm guilty of not doing that. I'm guilty of not respecting protocols, too. I'm guilty of being impatient with my Lord.

I did not see the line. The boundary line.

My Lord specifically told me to wait for him to do something, and I went around him.

Trouble was, we were not in playtime when he told me. It was sort-of implied. In the black-and-white world of Doms, I erred on the wrong side. In a more lenient world, I was a little pushy. But the fact remains that my Lord/boyfriend asked me to wait, and I pushed.

Uh-oh. Bad idea.

I don't think I'm getting off the hook this time, but it does bring up a topic that I've heard discussed from time to time, and I would love some clarity on this issue.

I am under the impression, you see, that Doms have some kind of responsibility toward their subs.

I've been told that things have to be negotiated ahead of time in a M/s relationship, and between Doms and subs. It's been made clear to me during group gatherings how I am to behave. I've been shown in lessons how other Doms and subs make arrangements. For example, when silence has been ordered, if the sub is feeling in danger, she (or he) is permitted to open and close a hand, a flashing signal to the Dom that there is trouble he (or she) needs to know about.

It was made equally clear to me, about that particular situation, that it was the Dom's responsibility to check his sub from time to time, to see if the hand was flashing!

I've been told that some slaves are ordered to be home, ready to hear from their master, at a specific time each day, or for a specific number of hours.

But the inference has been that the Dom will be on the other end of the phone or internet connection. Unless agreed to in advance, spelled out clearly, so that both parties know exactly what they are supposed to be doing.

I have never disobeyed my Lord. I have occasionally done things that weren't what my boyfriend preferred. But we talk things out. We come to understandings.

Well, recently I was "pushy", and punishment has been recommended.

I'm going to say I probably deserve it, if only for the tone of my communication, which was decidedly closer to the "nagging wife" side of the scale than "sub".

But I need clarification, even though I'm NOT in a full-time M/s relationship, on what is generally agreed on that I'm permitted to expect from my Lord.

I have, in fact, been trying for some time to be dominated. Figuratively speaking, the hand has been flashing. Figuratively speaking, the arms have been waving wildly, I've been jumping up and down, whistling, shouting, doing anything I can to get someone, sometimes anyone, to dominate me!

I do, in fact, find it easier to get along in the world under my Lord's guidance. Now, he is a busy man. I know I can't expect his attention all the time.

But just how much time, or how much guidance, can be expected? Especially given the limitations of a "play-time only" type of relationship.

That is my question.