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So much fun to torture a man. A bit less work then a woman as his jewels are so easily accessed. When a slave enters for the first time with an erection you know he has overcome his fear or the excitement us just too great for him.

The first minute in the door the poor boy was naked on all fours getting his first punishment . He had shown up for a coffee and was supposed to wear shorts no underwear to give me free access. Shorts do not have a gusset , he now understands the difference between easy access and accessible. Mostly a training session for A a student of the lifestyle, I think for a non pain slut still with a virgin ass did well for the time spent with us. I had A experiment with cbt and had her try out her floggers turning the slave's ass nicely red and left one or two marks on his cock.

Complication of the day did not allow it to gone on very long but A was treated to her first experience whipping a man along with seeing the humiliating act of masturbating in front of others. I am sure a lot is going on in her head right now but I hope to see a blog soon on her experience.Time to reflect and think of evil things.

Training is one ever fully trained

First off I use the word slave for a specific group of submissive yes I do believe there is a great difference. The word slave for me is more an act of enslavement. They have lost a battle or war or have been captured . Whether through a Dominants' ability to capture them by words and actions or by their own mind betraying them. The slave falls into a role they have defined and never wish to leave it they are close to or have been tamed, that spirit and will lies mostly with the master in regards to their decision making of the BDSM lifestyle and the dominants will also hold a great deal of power in the vanilla decisions of the slave . This does not mean they are broken nor under the thumb of all just their Master's.

My answer to my title questions; no one can be totally trained unless they are totally broken what is referred to as a doormat.Slaves can be 90% trained that you do not need to rehash rules and if one is broken they with a word will resume the proper role. The sub I feel cannot , the commitment to the lifestyle is too greatly influenced by what others think , commitments to vanilla life commitments to their own sense of being. Fear of totally letting go of control and giving it over to some one else. I will not delve as to why I just say there is a difference.

The slaves I have had will curl at me feet and expect nothing more from me a submissive has great needs then that. I have great pleasure in having a slave and that drives me to give them the pleasure they so desperately seek. I also after a while will ask and accept good impute from a slave as they think on the lines of what they can do to please their dominant. A submissive and I know this through personal experience will do things to gain pleasure for themselves either by pleasing the dominant or antagonizing them. Small rule breaks , semi flippant answers not conforming to the wishes of the master.

So for me a good slave can be fully trained and errors by them are true errors. A submissive cannot they look for ways to increase the desire for their pleasure and will break rules act coy and antagonize till they get it .

Fear of indecision

A slave boy that I have been talking to got cold feet and could not show at our first appointment. Now has reconsider his actions. What made him make his first choice and then why the second.

Should I decide to accept him back perhaps I should put him on display for my friends to see and cause him the embarrassment he so deeply seeks perhaps an all day session with a friend of mine. Who knows I have not decided yet.

Fear of letting go

Well I was all set to go off for a coffee with anew slave boy and low and behold an email arrived stating he would not be showing up the reason he gave was cowardice. Fear is another word for it . The questions would be what does he fear.

Is it me a sweeter kinder person well okay that might be part of it but.. I think it has to do with several fears and not pertaining to whether or not he would have his balls still attached. I think when this happens it is fear of admitting what he likes. The fear of turning fantasy into reality. Could be his fear of giving information such as this to another man, as knowledge is pure poor. Perhaps the fear of humiliation being in front of ones own sex showing not only your naked flesh but the naked slave inside.

Fear is such an unpredictable emotion it make then soar with excitement and it can make them refrain from taking the next step to their own enjoyment.

Fear is also a powerful tool for Dominants and one of the greatest drawbacks I will encourage slaves that are willing to overcome but I tend to drop slaves that hedge around it too much. I notice a lot of Dominants lead off profile and statement about safe sane and consensual. Well the games we play should be consensual but safe and sane well that is asking a lot of an extreme past time is it not. What degree is safe about a flogging or suspension what level of sane is wanting to be urinated on or buggered . Al I can say is my intent is not to damage or cause bad pain but I am thee to cause sweet and evil torture am I not.

Fear

at cause so much to happen in the body and mind of a slave. Fear is mostly an ugly word no one wants to have fear. You fear the touch a sharp knife you might get cut does he know what he is doing ? Can you trust him , why did you trust him?. You fear everyday things like being late , not looking great , falling down you might get mauled by a bear. Fear is an excellent guideline fear can keep you from danger ,injury and all sorts of mayhem. It can also cause danger to appear around every corner!

The old saying a place fools rush in where angels fear to tread. Stands out right now is it saying that angels that are pretty powerful fear that there is something with greater more power or is the fool with too much power and does not use common sense.

Most fantasies in the lifestyle have to do with fear. Kidnapping , imprisonment. rape yet they are in our dreams. Being bound to a cross and waiting for the first stoke to land is that fear or anticipation. Do we fear what we want and let others force it upon us so that we feel someone is saying it is okay it wasn't in our control.

I know that when fear is present the session is electrified. each touch magnified. The dread of what will be has moved from from reality and much closer to that fantasy. Fear causes women to moisten and men to drip far easier. their senses are heighten and their reflexes jerky.

Fear , just the right dose goes hand and hand with enjoyment in my opinion.

A new blog

It has been at least a year since I started a new blog. Mostly I have started them to provide a different space for myself to put down different subjects. Being that I was split between at least three lifestyles I felt I needed it. Now I grow tires of the tedium of carrying on so many of them . So as far as my bdsm side this will be the only one I will write to in the future.

This blog will be of a single minded nature My enjoyment and views of the Dominant life. I have given up on most of the other parts of the lifestyle and will exist in and for the Cloud side and vanilla sides of life. I have left the Medieval groups, the switch groups or will shortly and will sit back and have those that wish to serve, serve me and call it a day for the rest. I hope to offer a place for others to write under the Darklight banner for now there will just be myself .

All that said I am visiting with a new slave boy today , A brand spanking new Domme and an ex slave this week . Those will be amongst the first blogs as well as some theoretical views on training and thoughts on slaves.

I hope you will enjoy my writings.