work shop 101

This is some thing I do not understand. Now here comes the old timer talk. When I started down the path of evil sexuality there were no workshops. If you wanted to know how to do something you either tried it or asked some one who you heard knew how or saw at a get together. The older wiser lifestylers dispensed their knowledge with enthusiasm happy to share. The idea of mentoring was a natural thing but the etiquette of the time and the affects of having to hide what you were from regular folk stop those involved from offering their services and waited to be ask.

minion once asked me why i do not offer workshops , Well there are a few reasons why I do not. The first is that so many in the lifestyle or at least many of those that contact me want the knowledge give to them they do not the trouble of learning it just want to be ble to do it without responsibility. Secondly I will mentor any one who asks and is willing to put in the time and they have to learn in the way I show them. Last it has been forty years since i tied my girlfriend to a tree and had fun with here and of course it was consensual . well I knew more then then I do now so I am still learning so before everyone out there giving course and work shops comes pounding on my door this is my opinion I will always help when asked just don't ask for my diploma .

A question has been raised

Whether there should be Dms at parties and events? The underlying question has to do with the way that society views it's responsibilities to each other. There seems to be a move toward big brother watching over us. That we are not capable of knowing what is good for us and what is not. More then that it creeps toward being told things are too dangerous for us. It is coming out in sports because of injuries in our personal decision making that maybe we do not fully understand the consequences we do not have the faculties for higher thinking.

In vanilla life I cannot have a pool with out a fence because some one's child might drown. I cannot berate a child for disturbing me in a mall or restaurant because it might affect their development. Schools are not allowing the gam tag or the wearing of scary costumes at Halloween.

Since when did I become your keeper? Watch your own kids like I did. Be responsible for your self do not involve me in your lack of strength to say no to your children. Worse the ability to say no to yourself as you deem it okay to sit in a restaurant while little Jimmy screams , for some reason these cries are heard by everyone but the parents of the little brat. So you have to stay home and suffer and not have what you had before children do not have them if you cannot suffer a bit. I can go on about people too chicken shit to control themselves but i would digress .

Now for the lifestyle. Just like a safe word Dms are not worth the effort as I always say if you are tied to a cross and gaged well safe word will not do much will they. What you need to do is seek put information get mentored watch and learn before you play otherwise it is your fault yes the victim is at fault for rush in for being a know it all and for thinking with their fantasy before they live the reality a bit. Gently pulling you cheeks apart and inserting a well oiled butt plug that is just the right size has a different feel to it when a large pug is shove up your ass with little care as to your comfort. No DM is worth giving your own safety over to them that is our responsibility and who you play with.