Protocols

Protocols.

Seems there is a lot of hubbub going on about these things so here is my two cents worth.
I love protocols ,they increase the tension and excitement between partners. They are a simple way of keeping the excitement going when not together and increasing the good tension when together. So for me protocols are a great thing everyone should have them but!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

Protocols are written by the people who are together and some thing that has been harped upon by many people it is very much needed yet often forgotten.

Communication!

Listening and expressing , feelings, thoughts and desires to one's partner.

Yes here I go again back into what I did . Friday night there was a punishment session then a corner time for my slaves I never left them alone just they had to kneel in silence and think about what was next. When I felt they had enough time there was free time to talk about how everything and anything was going. Suggestions were made , some changes were made or explanation given as to why. Play afterwards was always new and exciting .

The wrong time to communicate is when you are tied to a cross gagged . The right time is when you have tried some thing out for a few day you are calm and collected and can express your self. OH and the time out when they knelt in silence was a great time out for me too.

cross post from Darklight vision

The scene
A cool day in autumn the breeze carries a chill to the air in the square where people haave been gathering for the past feew hours . The sun is still strong enouth to warm the rotten fruit and dry the spit and urine on their skin. There the five convicted hand by their wrist naked for all to see and be made fun of. Their families forced to attend. The victimns of theses criminals leading in the throwing of projectiles and insults. Then at noon the firetruck brought up and the howe opens a huge stream of water biting into their skin and cleaning them of debris. Now the punishemnt is meated out to their backs and behinds the quantity and the instruement to be used defined by the judge and the crime.A fantasy no a wish to replace the prison system with . A few months to make sure they have time to think of their crime and more important their punishment. I think far better then spending time in your home on weekend confined to tv and nintendo.Yes all for revenge then when punishment and time are served accept them back into society not continue to punish them so they are driven back to crime as we do now.

Decisions

So after 6 months of operations and sitting around with no exercise and lots of food I have gained 2 kilos. Not a Happy camper, while when I have my Dom cap on does not mean much they are not sold by the pound and while we like to do not have to look like an Adonis.

However , as a slave being naked tends to make you want to look your best. As a slave not seeing your dick because it is small is one thing not seeing because you stomach is in the way is another worse mistaking your big toe for your dick.

Lack of breath for a Dom means you sit more often for a slave means you cannot get away that quick. So for those on the block well I would want to loose these kilos and more if possible if I decide it to be a dominant year well slave slow down so I can catch you! hmmm nope going to loose the weight either way so no help in deciding there .

Clarity

I have recently been given new vision through surgery and the new implantation abilities I have a new liens and vision in my right eye. I see images crisp formation of paragraphs are not as difficult and my depth perception is returning slowly. How well i will recover my vision is unknown but it will be much better then what I had.

If given the choice I would not have had it at this time. Do not get me wrong I do not want to give it back but for one the timing .Having poor vision at Christmas allow you to see so much more. I have lost the starry eye vision of a child, I do not see happiness and joy that should be in the world at this time but instead the stark images of suffering.

The images of pixies, elves and angels has changed into sad men ringing bells without meaning nor knowledge of who they represent. Now my vision is so much better I no longer have to interpret what I see instead I see the dark images in sharp quality. With out thought dismiss them so i can see the next new thing. Perhaps we grow old and loose ability to protect us from lack of care we have given to our fellow man and the world we live on. Sad to speak this way at Christmas but I worry that now i want more. I want the other eye done I have more feeling to things that belong to forty year old not fifty seven year old. I want more and my cravings are of desire not revelling in memories of life.

So maybe there are things that should be left to grow old. I feel greedy so I guess there is clarity in my life now I realize that like others my Christmas spirit is based in greed not giving. Well so much for starry eyed visions and trees . I guess it is time to give I guess it might be time to bring out the chains and paddles and give some one a lovely red ass , As it is Christmas. you know!

I guess if I squint and wear the wrong glasses after having enough wine might help perhaps i willjust slowdown and take everything I now see as if it is a painting and just enjoy the vision and sbsorb the details. Really I think the smile of a child opening their gift on Christmas morn, or a vision of them having a starry eye look at a tree might be better. I might even see a pyxie or two myself.

After all we have the rest of the year to hate ourselves and others.

Yes we have lots of time so a some good cheer is a good idea . Mery Christmas to you all.

work shop 101

This is some thing I do not understand. Now here comes the old timer talk. When I started down the path of evil sexuality there were no workshops. If you wanted to know how to do something you either tried it or asked some one who you heard knew how or saw at a get together. The older wiser lifestylers dispensed their knowledge with enthusiasm happy to share. The idea of mentoring was a natural thing but the etiquette of the time and the affects of having to hide what you were from regular folk stop those involved from offering their services and waited to be ask.

minion once asked me why i do not offer workshops , Well there are a few reasons why I do not. The first is that so many in the lifestyle or at least many of those that contact me want the knowledge give to them they do not the trouble of learning it just want to be ble to do it without responsibility. Secondly I will mentor any one who asks and is willing to put in the time and they have to learn in the way I show them. Last it has been forty years since i tied my girlfriend to a tree and had fun with here and of course it was consensual . well I knew more then then I do now so I am still learning so before everyone out there giving course and work shops comes pounding on my door this is my opinion I will always help when asked just don't ask for my diploma .

A question has been raised

Whether there should be Dms at parties and events? The underlying question has to do with the way that society views it's responsibilities to each other. There seems to be a move toward big brother watching over us. That we are not capable of knowing what is good for us and what is not. More then that it creeps toward being told things are too dangerous for us. It is coming out in sports because of injuries in our personal decision making that maybe we do not fully understand the consequences we do not have the faculties for higher thinking.

In vanilla life I cannot have a pool with out a fence because some one's child might drown. I cannot berate a child for disturbing me in a mall or restaurant because it might affect their development. Schools are not allowing the gam tag or the wearing of scary costumes at Halloween.

Since when did I become your keeper? Watch your own kids like I did. Be responsible for your self do not involve me in your lack of strength to say no to your children. Worse the ability to say no to yourself as you deem it okay to sit in a restaurant while little Jimmy screams , for some reason these cries are heard by everyone but the parents of the little brat. So you have to stay home and suffer and not have what you had before children do not have them if you cannot suffer a bit. I can go on about people too chicken shit to control themselves but i would digress .

Now for the lifestyle. Just like a safe word Dms are not worth the effort as I always say if you are tied to a cross and gaged well safe word will not do much will they. What you need to do is seek put information get mentored watch and learn before you play otherwise it is your fault yes the victim is at fault for rush in for being a know it all and for thinking with their fantasy before they live the reality a bit. Gently pulling you cheeks apart and inserting a well oiled butt plug that is just the right size has a different feel to it when a large pug is shove up your ass with little care as to your comfort. No DM is worth giving your own safety over to them that is our responsibility and who you play with.

A disapointment

Sadly disappointed in the dominants that what I find to be the majority of what is out there. I find them needy , lacking in strength of character and sub beaten. They do not define what they want. They do not find what their slave wants they dress up like warriors but act like children.

Oh yes they can hit some one but they they do not know how to spank some to orgasm it is almost as if the slave has orgasm waiting for the dominant to look around and see who is watching . Well I was and it was not pretty.

very sad for the future of the lifestyle when this is what slaves are supposed to look to for pleasure and exploration. No wonder there are so many slaves balking at the idea of rules , protocols and control.

A sad day indeed.