work shop 101

This is some thing I do not understand. Now here comes the old timer talk. When I started down the path of evil sexuality there were no workshops. If you wanted to know how to do something you either tried it or asked some one who you heard knew how or saw at a get together. The older wiser lifestylers dispensed their knowledge with enthusiasm happy to share. The idea of mentoring was a natural thing but the etiquette of the time and the affects of having to hide what you were from regular folk stop those involved from offering their services and waited to be ask.

minion once asked me why i do not offer workshops , Well there are a few reasons why I do not. The first is that so many in the lifestyle or at least many of those that contact me want the knowledge give to them they do not the trouble of learning it just want to be ble to do it without responsibility. Secondly I will mentor any one who asks and is willing to put in the time and they have to learn in the way I show them. Last it has been forty years since i tied my girlfriend to a tree and had fun with here and of course it was consensual . well I knew more then then I do now so I am still learning so before everyone out there giving course and work shops comes pounding on my door this is my opinion I will always help when asked just don't ask for my diploma .

A question has been raised

Whether there should be Dms at parties and events? The underlying question has to do with the way that society views it's responsibilities to each other. There seems to be a move toward big brother watching over us. That we are not capable of knowing what is good for us and what is not. More then that it creeps toward being told things are too dangerous for us. It is coming out in sports because of injuries in our personal decision making that maybe we do not fully understand the consequences we do not have the faculties for higher thinking.

In vanilla life I cannot have a pool with out a fence because some one's child might drown. I cannot berate a child for disturbing me in a mall or restaurant because it might affect their development. Schools are not allowing the gam tag or the wearing of scary costumes at Halloween.

Since when did I become your keeper? Watch your own kids like I did. Be responsible for your self do not involve me in your lack of strength to say no to your children. Worse the ability to say no to yourself as you deem it okay to sit in a restaurant while little Jimmy screams , for some reason these cries are heard by everyone but the parents of the little brat. So you have to stay home and suffer and not have what you had before children do not have them if you cannot suffer a bit. I can go on about people too chicken shit to control themselves but i would digress .

Now for the lifestyle. Just like a safe word Dms are not worth the effort as I always say if you are tied to a cross and gaged well safe word will not do much will they. What you need to do is seek put information get mentored watch and learn before you play otherwise it is your fault yes the victim is at fault for rush in for being a know it all and for thinking with their fantasy before they live the reality a bit. Gently pulling you cheeks apart and inserting a well oiled butt plug that is just the right size has a different feel to it when a large pug is shove up your ass with little care as to your comfort. No DM is worth giving your own safety over to them that is our responsibility and who you play with.

A disapointment

Sadly disappointed in the dominants that what I find to be the majority of what is out there. I find them needy , lacking in strength of character and sub beaten. They do not define what they want. They do not find what their slave wants they dress up like warriors but act like children.

Oh yes they can hit some one but they they do not know how to spank some to orgasm it is almost as if the slave has orgasm waiting for the dominant to look around and see who is watching . Well I was and it was not pretty.

very sad for the future of the lifestyle when this is what slaves are supposed to look to for pleasure and exploration. No wonder there are so many slaves balking at the idea of rules , protocols and control.

A sad day indeed.

Mystic

It started around five thirty. One of the few times there is no human made noise just the noise trees make when they are still. A smell of forest a feeling of moisture but not mist nor rain just a coolness about it. SO pleasant that i bared my flesh to it and enjoyed nature. Funny the peace one can take from this perfect time and place. It is a wonder why we push so hard to get away from it and go to the elect tonics the bells and whistles that so control or push our stress levels.

All knowing

I am not! So when I received a reply yesterday I was amused and had to share this well a few sentences of the inquiry.

: Master (I hate that term) I like to say no and stop but i only mean it if it hurts too much or i do not like what is happening. :

I am confused is it just me? How will I know to stop if the same word is used to stop the scene as well as enhance it for her. Now I do not usually use a safe word i find them useless a Dom should know the body he is playing with but i will use a safe word when it is some one I have never played with. I guess that he slave is saying the same thing but communication is so important.

Safe words only protect you if you are with a sane Dom how ever if you allow yourself to be tied up by a total stranger and think a safe word will save you well Virginia no there is no Santa Claus .

B.R.A.T.

They seem to be pet peeves for many dominants. I feel that many dominants do not like brats because they require a lot of work. They do require a great deal but for Brat lovers they are worth while.

In my time i have had three brats most challenging but just dam good slaves. Amanda would do something or say some thing knowing she was close to the limit then coyly look at me and wait to see if she went too far and while see did not i would still playfully punish. Such as at a munch she was riding a dom a lot playfully about his french how English's it sounded when she looked at me and smiled i ordered a lemon and told her to suck the juice of the lemon because i wanted to see if french girls really had perky lips. We all laughed at her winces and her laugh as she did what was asked by me. Now when it came down to being my slave she was excellent but when she got a little board when that is when i had to stay ahead of her which kept me going i loved it.

So a brat for me is a good thing and so is a good slave.

Choice

In day s of old and days gone bye
it would bring a tear to my eye
when evil would win and good would loose
then i would have to choose

in dragon smoke and dudgeon lair we would labour
till the knights would stand in favour
to bring back the light of day from darkest night
dark would loose all would be right

Now the days and knights have changed
no longer easy to see through the smoke and flame
not easy to see where to put teh blame
if darkness is evil and light is right it should be easy to see what is right
eyes do dim and fears do grow we choose what causes the smallest woe

So now we sit on high with chest plates polished and shield in hand
we lie and sell our souls to those of the land
with gold and silver in their hands

Do we fight for right or fear
do we try to make it clear
do we stand with brightness of day
or hide in shadows and shade of evil and dismay

So there is the choice it is easily made
to follow the light or enter the cave
to use our eyes and see the knave
or enter the cave and be betrayed.

CLoud