Fear is a good thing

Man is subject to innumerable pains and sorrows by the very condition of humanity, and yet, as if nature had not sown evils enough in life, we are continually adding grief to grief and aggravating the common calamity by our cruel treatment of one another. (J.A.Froude)

Would seem that Mr Froude would agree with me that we are cruel to each other part of our make up I guess. Why then should we change what we are?

Fear is a good thing in my opinion. Fear has kept the human race going for years without it Lions, Tigers and bears would rule. Fear intensifies our senses and causes the elevation of all sorts of endorphins. Something, which also provides flight for subs and slaves, seems funny does it not to say that we should not use fear in sessions and relations if it intensifies the feelings?


Now as far as cruelty would not stabbing someone with needles, beating them with tack paddles or whipping them till they hang from the chains they have be bound to. They certainly are not signs of love in the vanilla world, which J. A. Froude is a staunch member of, So while his words have the most meaning in that dimension they might well be out of context in the lifestyle.

Nope I think fear has its’ place in the toy bag and like any other toy must be used properly. One of the games you could say that need fear hmmm lets see I think it is called a mind fuck with out fear then it will not work. So I will stand by my words and go further fear greatly enhances emotions in a Master/slave relation. It keeps an edge that cannot be found elsewhere.

Do I want a perfectly trained slave

What is a perfectly trained slave? That answer can only be found in the id of their owner.

As for me I do not believe in the idea of a perfectly trained slave that to me is a doormat. There is no spunk in a doormat; it is like whipping a dead horse. You might gain some pleasure from the beating but the horse will not move nor does it care.

I prefer a stronger character one that does rebel a bit shows some strength, one that is waiting to feel the reins pulled tight and shown once again the strength of the Master. I like a bit of fire I want the need to control those characters to consume my time with them. Yes part of the trip of a Master showing off what they can control. I am not as impressed with the docile slaves scurrying about because there are rules to follow, I want them to scurry about because they fear my disappointment, my anger and my discipline in other words they fear me.

Pure Master orowner is it possible

I believe that pure domination is possible. Pure slavery and Pure owner can exists. I do believe many say they are in it by being in 24/7 relations or by the extreme of their play In my opinion, most who say they are in 24,7 relations really are, just it is not the lifestyle that is the bases.
No slave hands over total control to the dominants as they would, unless they be sold or given as an object. I feel a great many 24/7s cloud the idea with being together as 24/7 bdsm lifestyle rather than they are in a vanilla relation with a lot of kink. So total mental and physical control would be at the top of the list. I would never have to be anything but the owner or Master. Never to show weakness in front of the slave, so as not to give any form of control back to her.. Nor falter and allow the slave a choice of anything. Her vanilla life would disappear, as that is a form of control. Health , business, family and friends would have no concern for her as she would be like the couch or pot that I use. She would serve a purpose and I would care for her as I would any possession that proves itself useful.
Perhaps a week many two I would last as that type of Dominant, but for me that definition is more of a doormat then a slave. I do believe that must be given a controlling interest in all parts of the slave’s life nor should the Dominant show weakness in front of the slave. I just would prefer to be the proprietor of a fine horse then say I own a stool. Perhaps there is another definition of pure Master or Owner.

Pure Dominance

A conversation with a friend delved into the idea of pure slavery. as I sit in my den listening to Medievil Babes I have come to realise this universe doe not allow singular entities to exist. Teh yning an dyang must exist in all parts of our lives. We now have accepted the idea of dark matter in the Universe.

SO if there is true slavery is there true Dominance?

What does it consist of off?

What if.

A friend had mentioned in her blog that one of her fantasies , living 24/7 in a bdsm community had all since been squashed by the reality of vanilla life. Hog wash!

I feel in these days of fluctuating prices a small tract of land could be found and purchased by a group of lifestyles and could be formed into a gated community. Rules would have to be set as per visitors but the rest would be protocol driven. There are other communities that support the nudist lifestyle Why not a group of ten of fifteen couples . Unlike the nudist we would have to exclude children but a house or lodging could be set up for those in the lifestyle with children so the couple could visit with out their children.

I can think of a brochure for it all ready , Page one would have a picture of naked slaves sweeping the streets at the crack of dawn then hurrying home to cook breakfast. Second page would have some slave bein whipped because the eggs were cold again. While a few others wait tied to the fence for their punishment.

I could go on and on but the rest is for you to do.

Desensitization

An old English professor of mine would put emphasis on the object of the preposition. He would say object of the prep and the class would say sition with great strength, He would have loved the word desensitization. He would be one of the few.


I received an email from the humiliation group on fetlife. How do you over come desensitization? Specifically desensitization to humiliation was the main topic. We tend in our lifestyle especially now a days, to concentrate on what we like rather then just taking the right amount we over indulge. We get our desert before we eat our Brussels sprouts. What peeks my interest here is that the Dominants that comment said things such as I wish you lived closer or that it was not being done right worse that what he needs is a great amount. I believe his question was how does he get the same enjoyment he once did and to me those answers would just drive his desensitization further. An old expression you can’t whip a dead horse comes to mind.

Again I see this god complex in some dominants and worse see how little they listen or understand what is being said to them. Perhaps his dominant over indulge him in humiliation perhaps too many joined in , perhaps they did not know how to do it right could be but the cure is to bring him back down to his base give him a rest from it. A friend of mine s sub has a very tuff buttock toward cp. Her Master wisely does not use only one weapon in his attempt to make her fly. He varies from whips to clamps and needles. He varies time place and circumstance. She always finishes most sessions wanting more yet had reach orgasm at least once.

So for me I would remove heavy humiliation from his sessions and replace it with some loving humiliation such as a whisper of him being my little whore as we walked on the street not loud enough for any one to hear but him and perhaps put a little more playfulness into the sessions to give him a little vacation from being the downtrodden. I do wish that Dominants would sit back now and then and take stock of their own humanity rather then think their shit does not smell. When a slave puts us on a pedestal it is one thing when we do it ourselves it is another. When we do it we are setting ourselves and our slaves up for a fall.

Of course my thoughts, my opinion.

Things I won’t do or ask for.

Yes I do love telling anyone who will listen much like the ancient mariner of things I have done and would ike to do to slaves. I have listed rules and regulation my love of protocols, punishment sessions to extend play sessions and also my hard limits.

There are some things I will never ask for.

Permanent marks distinguishing ownership Cloud has been written on many an ass but never branded or tattooed. I love looking at those that carry piercing but have never told or ask a slave to have them done nor have I allowed them to do so in my ownership of them.

I will not be here for ever so to do so is just too much to ask of anyone. I am more impressed by the offering of slavery by some one to me then a mark saying I own them. I do not mark my stereo nor car and would not should I own a dog or cat so what would possess me to ask for such a thing of some one offering me more then any symbol could show.

Piercing for me get in the way of some play I like so nice jewels but do they come in clip on?

Now, for some thing a little more sombre asking for a a death pact. Something I had heard of in books such as the story of O and perhaps a few other stories. If the Master dies the slave commits suicide, Whoa Now I feel I can speak on this because I was asked to make one with a slave a few years ago. I did not refuse at first instead I pointed out she had children she had others depending on her and could not enter into such a pack nor would I ask any one to do so. If anything I want them to go off and tell every one what a great Master I was and boy anyone not trained by Cloud missed out.

There is a reality to the lifestyle we are not born to it as some think those supposed naturals that gave commands minutes after coming out of the womb. I am not a god I am close at times but just do not want to make as many mistakes as they have. I do not wish to control the length of time on this plane of existence merely like to enjoy the time I have and they have on it. The serious side of a slave asking for a death pact is it might be a cry saying they do not really have control over them selves to be a slave and should get help from outside of the lifestyle. I can see the ideal and possibility of living 24/7 but not this type of control this type is well passed a healthy bdsm relationship. My thoughts , my opinion.